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Question for Tony - My husband an I have been in the hot wife lifestyle for over a year. The last six months have been me primarily playing alone. He is welcome to enjoy the company of other females alone. I'm concerned that now when I go on dates he doesn't seem to have the spark he once had. He used to get so excited for me. I'm considering stopping the lifestyle for a while. He says everything is fine, but I'm just not sure. Can you offer any advice as a husband of a hot wife?

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Without having a full understanding of your relationship and a mild understanding of your history with your experiences when your play excludes your husband, it’s simply near impossible to touch on why your husband may not have the spark he once had. I can only offer you what I feel may be the proper response, but may not be the solution for you.

There’s a saying a man is either hungry or horny. If he is not currently aroused then make him a sandwich.

Work on the sandwich. No, don’t go make him a sandwich (unless he is hungry). Turn your playtime with others into the sandwich. I have certain triggers that arouse me when Nicole goes out on a play date. It could be the conversation leading up to the announcement that she has an offer for play. It could be her request for permission to play. For example, I may put a stipulation on her play. Could be anything from limiting her time. Could be some foreplay on why I should allow her to go play. Could even be something as simple as me choosing what she will wear on her night out. I could request her partner message me images. With each image buying more time with Nicole. It could be I plan her evening with her partner. And yes, it could even be that I just want a few hours of alone time to forget about an awful day.

The important factor is that I’m involved in some way. If she comes home from a play date and is not inclined to share her experience (even if it’s the same as last time with a long term playmate, meaning that there really is nothing new to report) I may be less inclined to be excited the next time she goes out.

You mention he has the opportunity to enjoy others alone as well. I can tell you it’s just not as fun for us guys. If you read some of our posts you’ll see, the women generally associated with the lifestyle are not the most desirable to be around (relax ladies, that’s not a blanket statement). He could be frustrated with not getting any play time on his own.

Or quite simply he has having a hard time with something outside the lifestyle and actually enjoys the couple hours of quiet. That’s not to say you’re annoying, or that he might need a break. But sometimes we have really shitty days, weeks, months and in my business years. The quiet time just gives us the ability to get over our day and get ready for the next day.

Now… none of this may apply to you. You should concern yourself with 3 things right now. These will keep you on the right track.

1. The current intimacy level in your marriage should be the same or greater than before you married. If it’s not, time to take a break. You’ve lost your focus.

2. Be that hotwife to him. Give him exactly what your boyfriends are getting every once in a while. Don’t do it every time. Keep for when you feel the need to increase the passion. Sometimes it’s ok to not have the intimacy, not have the romance.

3. Look back on when this started, something is missing. Or something has changed. He is less involved, or too involved with something else. You have no problems keeping the attention of your playmates, you should have no problem keeping the attention of your husband.

There is one other possibility. And again without speaking to you it may not apply. Sometimes you can find yourself a little too caught up with your playmate. To the point of it taking away your time with your husband. That could trigger some discomfort with him. Ask yourself how hard it would be for you to terminate your relationship with this playmate. The answer will help you understand where you may have gone wrong.

Remember, we’re simple. We’re either hungry or horny. If he doesn’t have a hard on then go make him his sandwich and bring your milkshake. The boys will wait in the yard for you.

Most memorable experiences

So… I’m often asked what is my most memorable experiences with Nicole. While every single occasion is memorable. These in my opinion are the 3 most memorable.

1. The first time we had someone else join us.. Our first was an MFM threesome and remains as the most memorable to me. Primarily because I watched a very nervous (at the time) girlfriend go through the complete process of choosing a suitable first encounter all the way to finishing the man off right in front of my very eyes. From the moment we met over coffee, to the moment she left to the restroom, to the moment she texted me from the restroom that she wanted to move forward.  I can repeat every detail including the conversations that carried as we got to know each other. How nervous she was to be sandwiched between her lover and a near stranger. How tense she was and how quickly she relaxed. How naturally it all came to her. How much she enjoyed herself. How long it lasted. All the way to when we finished. The everlasting smile on her face. The awkward conversation the next day. Most of all, how eager she was to repeat it and how aggressive she would be to find another playmate.

2. The second male…  Our first MFM with the second partner proved to be quite memorable. On our first meet we had no intentions of playing, simply just getting to know each other. However, 20 minutes into our conversation, Nicole sent her signals that she was going to have him soon. When we returned to our place he was all over her and within moments had her in her birthday suit. This man fucked like a machine and was extremely loud about it. He fucked so hard he broke the frame on our solid wood bed and broke the mounts to the head board. At the time we were in an apartment where our bedroom butted up against the neighbors bedroom. There was no hiding what was going on and the neighbors could never wipe the smile off their face when they saw us. Most vividly, Nicole could not walk afterwards without having someone hold her up. He was well equipped, but no monster. Just an all around fantastic partner for Nicole. 

   Now if that wasn’t enough… On Nicoles Birthday I had both males over for a mini gangbang. The three of us fucked her for a solid 5 hours. If I remember correctly all 3 of us came 3 times. There’s no telling how many times Nicole came, she’s multi orgasmic. So if anything it was 5 hours of pure enjoyment for her. Not to mention she could not get out of the bed When we were done with her and she had to be at work in a couple of hours.

3. Not too long ago we met a gentleman through a website. He was quite fit and a polar opposite of what Nicole generally chooses in a male. She normally doesn’t find men with chiseled bodies attractive. Muscular yes, but this guy looked like a fitness model. It was hard to tell in photos how hung he was, but I had a feeling he would be rather large. Generally when we meet a male for the first time we “sleep on it” before inviting him to join us. On that night, she was anxious to go back to his place. And we did.

   I was recovering from an injury and chose to sit on the sofa and watch for a little while as they got to “know” each other. Generally there is a lot of heavy petting and making out. Instead she approached him immediately, pushed him up against the wall. There was a deep kiss, her hands moved down to the bulge in his pants and nervously she pulled back. She then put her hands back on the bulge all while kissing. She unbuttoned his pants and squatted to give him a blow job. This is a first, because she normally let’s the guy take the lead. I think she could not believe what she was feeling and wanted a closer look. Now, I didn’t pull out a tape measure, but my best guess would say he was at the least 8.5 to 9 inches and his cock was thicker than her forearm. The head was so large she could barely fit the first 3 inches into her mouth. She generally doesn’t have a problem swallowing a healthy 6.5 to 7 inch cock. By healthy I mean above average in girth.

 He lifted her from her squatted position and led her over to the bed, assisted in removing her clothes and bent her over on all fours. As he stood at the edge of the bed he placed the tip of his condom covered cock at her soaking wet hole. I could hear how wet she was as he rubbed it up and down her opening. It was his way of letting me know she was ready to go. He slowly popped the head in and I watched Nicoles eyes slowly roll into the back of her head as he firmly shoved every last inch inside her. Nicoles head rolled up and then back down as her arms collapsed. He move slowly the first couple of times and you could clearly hear how wet she was. Then he began to do his thing. And he was good at it, with her arms collapsed, the view was her face burried in the bed, and then nothing but hips and ass being aggressively fucked.   As I moved in, she was in another place.  He was fucking her so hard she couldn’t even concentrate on the blow job she was giving me.

  He must have suffered from performance anxiety (yes ladies, this does happen), because even after pounding her for a solid 2 hours he couldn’t cum.  Nicole tried everything including riding him, which was very hard to do because she couldn’t stop cumming. But he just couldn’t. On our way out she offered to meet up the next afternoon strictly to relieve him. He said he would get back to her. And he did, he came over the next afternoon, and once again she immediately began to worship his cock. As soon as he was hard, he went straight to fucking her, only this time he focused on himself. Within minutes he came violently inside her (yes, he used a condom). Normally Nicole prefers to watch the man cum, but not this time. This time it was all about him. For some reason he was a bit embarrassed that he couldn’t rise to the occasion a second time and we never heard from him. That’s too bad, because I’m willing to bet he would still be around if she had it her way.

  I know what you’re thinking.  So detailed, but why isn’t it #1?  Because it isn’t.  It’s just a unique scenario, one where I spent the majority of the time observing.  Not just the sex, but Nicole’s behavior.  It was a first, this was a guy we both hardly knew and she behaved so naughty.

There are many more occasions that are memorable, but these are currently the top 3.  Even though I squeezed in 2 into the number 2 spot.

Good times not to be forgotten

1. DVP

2. Public Play

3. Nicole’s one on one with a female

4. “The Mision”

All good times - yes there were some not so good times, but that’s part of this lifestyle.

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Hi love your blog! I'm wondering, if Nicole ever tried Black men. And where are you guys

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Not yet. Nicole chooses who she wants to be with. Attraction goes beyond physical appearance for her. She is fond of any man that has substance, passion and is good with seduction. Physical attraction is the last thing on the list for her.

We’re in Southern California.

Wow fantastic, exciting and entertaining Blog that you have, it is a pleasure to navigate it and let the imagination and the desire to pass smoothly. Thank you for the and best regards from Tenerife

Thanks for checking us out. :)

So nice to see we reached a Spanish island.

I am sorry you do not have anyone close to you that you can be yourselves and be loved no matter what. We are fortunate to have a small group of friends not like us, that love us no matter what and to some small degree find our lifestyle fun (even I they "wouldn't be able to do it" or can't understand why we do it, but they see a strong healthy marriage built on absolute trust and no jealousy :)

That’s awesome to hear. We’ve discussed coming out, but we both feel it’s better to have our own little secret (based off our vanilla group). Since starting the blog we’ve met a few people and that has helped with the release (pun intended) of being able to speak about our lifestyle. Even made a few friends along the way.

Great blog! Very entertaining.

Tony

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Oct 8
nymphoninjas:
Dear NN:
This is the first time I submit with my couple.
I love have sex in different places so this time my bf and I we have our first time in a car.
The reason I want to share with you this experience is because this blog make me feel more comfortable with my body, so thank you for that, and congratulations for this amazing blog!
I’m going to search new places for share.
xoxo
With EA.

SS is bringing back so many memories this week, when I was young car sex became a regular part of my relationships. Needing to escape from parents, sometimes borrowing the car and going for a drive was the only way to get some privacy. Thanks for sharing this very sexy photo and a bit of your car sex with us, keep being adventurous and explore new places, be safe and have fun. 

nymphoninjas:

Dear NN:

This is the first time I submit with my couple.

I love have sex in different places so this time my bf and I we have our first time in a car.

The reason I want to share with you this experience is because this blog make me feel more comfortable with my body, so thank you for that, and congratulations for this amazing blog!

I’m going to search new places for share.

xoxo

With EA.

SS is bringing back so many memories this week, when I was young car sex became a regular part of my relationships. Needing to escape from parents, sometimes borrowing the car and going for a drive was the only way to get some privacy. Thanks for sharing this very sexy photo and a bit of your car sex with us, keep being adventurous and explore new places, be safe and have fun. 

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